How to Raise Your Personal Standards
Last March was a big travel month for me with two trips and the collection of many frequent flier miles. For some reason the quality of toilet paper caught my attention in the cozy Florida airport (nice soft and multi-ply) and the expansive Atlanta terminal (thin single ply). I could theorize that the smaller airport can afford a higher quality TP because it serves fewer people, or that it serves an older clientele that prefers the extra softness, but it really all comes down to the standards set by the TP purchaser, right? What’s more important, the price or the quality?
I get it. It’s just TP, but I think it says so much more. The personal standards we set for ourselves become almost invisible to us, much like our TP. They become part of the background and our life reflects those standards. If you are experiencing a lot of difficulty in your life and work, it may indicate that a raising of standards is needed.
“If you don’t set baseline standards for what you’ll accept in your life, you’ll find it easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes and a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve.” ~ Tony Robbins
So how do you raise your personal standards you ask? Working with a coach will accelerate this process of course, but you can start with a few steps:
1. Make a list of 10 people that you admire, especially in how they deal with problems and people. How can you be more like them, yet still be yourself? Identify these role models and observe their behavior. Set some goals to emulate the behaviors that will meet a new higher standard for yourself.
2. Be constructive with absolutely everything you say. Yes, I said absolutely everything! This means that when you are faced with an issue, instead of blaming someone you only discuss ways to improve and move forward. When you find yourself in the middle of a gossip fest, you either change the direction to a constructive tone, or extract yourself from the conversation. This isn’t easy, but raising your standards shouldn’t be easy anyway.
3. Admit your role in everything that occurs in your space and raise your standards to prevent it from reoccurring. This can be difficult to do, but taking responsible for absolutely everything that happens to you. Determine what role you played in the situation. What could you have done differently in order to have a more successful outcome and what do you need to put in place in order to ensure that you’ll create more success in the future?
And above all, I wish you many years of soft, multi-ply TP.
Lynn Zettler founded CORE IMPACT COACHING, Inc. (formerly LifeAction Coaching), an Executive and Professional Coaching firm serving business owners, and C-suite and corporate professionals, in 2006. Leveraging from her 20-year corporate and leadership experience from The Dow Chemical Company, and Coach University training, Lynn partners with clients to develop their leadership and communication styles, while aligning with their integrity and vision. With a specialty in effective communications, Lynn engages organizations through workshops and trainings related to topics such as: Leading With Influence, Core Values at Work, The One Page Business PlanTM, and many others.